Before You Begin is not a book about fixing yourself.

It's about the space before change-before responsibility is assigned, before healing is demanded, before anyone tells you what you should do next.

Written for those who have fallen, been helped in ways that hurt, or been asked to take responsibility for things they could not have done differently, this book offers a trauma-informed, grace-centered reframing of agency, accountability, and love. It explores false safety, "nice" harm, moral performance, and the quiet violence of help that prevents landing.

Blending personal reflection, poetic insight, and relational honesty, Before You Begin invites readers to slow down and listen to what their body already knows: timing matters, choice requires safety, and responsibility only makes sense where agency exists.

This is not a guide, a program, or a promise of transformation.

It is a threshold.

And an invitation to arrive-without shame, urgency, or performance-before you begin.