You've snapped at someone you love and didn't know why. You've replayed an argument for days. You've gone silent when you should have spoken, or spoken when silence would have served you better. You've wondered why certain people and situations keep pulling the same reaction out of you - no matter how hard you try to do better.
You're not broken. You're triggered. And there's a difference.
In Triggered But Transformed: How to Keep Your Peace Without Losing Yourself, certified emotional intelligence coach Patrice McFarquhar takes you on a deeply personal journey into the roots of emotional reactivity - tracing how childhood wounds, cultural conditioning, and unhealed fear quietly run our lives long after the original pain has passed.
Drawing from her own story of growing up in Trinidad, navigating immigrant family dynamics, and learning hard lessons in marriage, the workplace, and motherhood, Patrice doesn't just teach the principles - she lives them. With honesty, warmth, and the wisdom of someone who has done the work herself, she guides you through:
- The EQUIP Framework - a practical system for moving from Awareness to Regulation to intentional Response
- The F.E.A.R. Framework - a step-by-step approach to conflict resolution that actually heals
- How to forgive without pretending, set wise boundaries without closing your heart, and reconcile without losing yourself
- A 30-Day Peace Challenge to turn everything you've learned into lasting transformation
This is not a book about becoming perfect. It's about becoming free.
Triggered is where you start. Transformed is where you're going.
